Getting Your Ideal Relationship

You may be wondering how to go about creating a loving relationship, a connection which really serves you.

This is just one aspect of creating the life you want by using manifestation and Law of Attraction. And I assume you wouldn’t be here reading this if you didn’t believe manifestation is a reality?

So let’s cut to the chase with two simple facts:

You are the person who is ultimately responsible for everything that happens to you.

You are the person who is in charge of your life.

In practical terms this means you can have anything you want, you can be anything you want, and you can do anything you want.

There is, regrettably, just one small problem: you have to believe in the possibility of the manifestation of whatever you’re thinking about.

And to do that, you must rid yourself of limiting beliefs and employ the right reality-creation techniques.

Here’s a brief summary of the steps necessary for you to get your desired outcome, be it a loving relationship or abundance and prosperity.

One: Show Continuing Commitment To Your Objective

In my experience, one of the biggest reasons why people fail to manifest the thing they say they want is because after a few days of visualization or meditation, they forget about it.

They are too distracted by the events of everyday life, or their passion for what they claim they want is simply not intense enough to sustain the connection between their wish for change and their desired outcome.

That’s true of all areas of life – money, love, abundance, prosperity, even happiness.

But commitment is absolutely essential. You see, when you commit to a goal and you stay committed to it, the chances of you achieving it improve massively.

That’s especially true for love. So why do people not find it easy to commit for the long term to their desired outcome of finding love?

Mostly, I suspect, because they don’t want to feel let down, or to be let down. Mostly, I suspect, because they’re scared that their happiness really does depend on finding the right relationship. (And, of course, they may not get it.)

Which is ironic really, because committing to a loving relationship, and maintaining that commitment until it manifests, is the one thing that really will make you happy and joyous.

When you commit completely, which means in effect making sure that you hold onto your goal and you work towards it every single day of your life, your chances of success are guaranteed. 

Two: Make Sure You Know What You Want

Of course there is another side to this.

To commit to anything, to be able to manifest, you absolutely need to know what you want.

Some experts on manifestation say you need to visualize every single detail of your objective, so that your mind has a clear vision of what you’re trying to achieve.

Yet at the same time, other writers on the subject of manifestation and the law of attraction will tell you equally clearly that visualizing specific detail is wrong because this reduces the chance of the universe manifesting what you want through synchronicity and coincidence.

The explanation of this apparent paradox lies in a simple twist – you need to focus on what you will feel when you find the person you’re looking for.

So ask yourself what qualities would make you happy, committed, loving. Ask yourself what you would respect in a partner and what qualities you would want in them.

Then, using these, you can summon up a sense, an image, a visualized picture even, of the partner you want.

This way, you’re not attached to the specific details of size, eye colour, hair color, weight, body shape or anything else.

What you’re attached to is the state of mind that you want to experience through meeting your partner and having a loving relationship with them.

This also has the advantage that you’re not trying to do this for the sake of someone else – you are doing it clearly and specifically for your own advantage, for your own benefit, for your own good.

Three: Embody The Qualities You Want To Find In Somebody Else

It follows, doesn’t it, that if you want to meet a loving person, then you have to embody the quality of a loving nature yourself?

Indeed, it could be argued that if you’re trying to meet a partner who is loving, respectful, has high moral values, is relaxed and authentic, let’s say for the sake of argument, then surely you have to embody these values yourself?

When you meet and find yourself attracted to somebody who has opposite qualities and values to you, it’s almost certainly because you’re trying to complete some incomplete Gestalt, a residue from your emotional history.

Most people, regrettably, don’t focus on the need to embody the inequalities that they’re looking for in their partner.

Instead, they look for somebody who can serve as a means of psychological completion of themselves. So for you, for example, this might mean looking for the quality you believe is missing in you by trying to find someone else who has it.

This is why it’s absolutely essential to do your own work, that is to say your psychological and emotional development work, to make yourself into the person who you truly want to be.

You stand a much better chance of meeting your ideal soulmate when you’re not searching for some missing part of yourself in someone else.

Four: Know That The Love You Want Is In Your Life Even Before Your Soulmate Arrives

Perhaps for most people this is the really challenging step – to feel the results of their manifestation before it’s arrived.

Ask yourself this question as an example of the principle at work: if you are feeling depressed, would you expect to attract a joyous, loving partner?

The answer is obvious, isn’t it?

You can’t use a relationship to make you complete. What you can do is manifest an ideal partner so you can experience joy and love.

Intentionally using other people to make yourself feel “whole” is a recipe for disaster. You might learn something from it, you might even heal some emotional wounds, but believe me, this is not the way you’re going to meet your soulmate.

In fact, this is true for every area of life:  if you want to create the life you want, then you need to embody those qualities in yourself, so that the world starts to experience you in that way. Then you will attract and manifest people, circumstances and events which mirror those qualities.

So you need to believe in yourself, you need to love yourself, and you need to be self-sufficient.

When you have those qualities, even to a slight degree, you can move into an emotional space where you can meet your soulmate.

But here’s the important thing: even if you’re not in that place, you can still use Law of Attraction and principles of manifestation to find a relationship which satisfies you and fulfils you for now. 

But keep in mind the fact you may be challenged by this relationship, for its purpose may only be to help you learn and grow sufficiently to move on to the next level of your own evolution.